“You gotta do what’s best for YOU.” This phrase bothers me so much; or the ever so common, “Do what makes YOU happy.” When did that become the way we live? When did our society become so focused on our individual selves that we are now encouraged to always put ourselves first? Maybe I am the youngest generation that was raised with an attitude to serve others, but honestly? I hear adults say this to each other on a daily basis! It’s a “nobody else matters” attitude and it’s just shocking to me.
I was raised to put others first, to an extent. I credit the empathy, compassion, and generosity I feel toward others to God and my parents. They taught me to put others needs ahead of my own wants and I believe that has impacted every part of my life as I grew up. My siblings and I have always stood out among our co-workers in every job we have had because we are willing to go the extra mile in most cases. I am not saying in any way that you should let people take advantage of your kindness, but that people should know you by your service to others. Why are we teaching our kids and encouraging our adult friends that they are the most important person in the world? I know that if you asked most parents, they would not tell you that they want their kids to grow up selfish and uncaring but that is how we are raising them.
We are teaching our kids that their wants come before the needs of others no matter the cost. I see so many parents who have trained their toddlers to believe that they run the household. Everything centers around what they scream and cry for. They are given what they want as they demand it, and it’s not what any parent actually wants for their child. We are afraid of dealing with an upset child which leads us to inadvertently teaching them that they are the most important thing in the world.
Now, don’t misunderstand. I believe children are important, but we should be training them to put others first whenever possible. This idea that we “deserve it” is completely against the Bible; in fact, the Bible says the opposite! If we are honest about what we deserve, it would be Hell and condemnation. Christ has given us everything and we deserve nothing and in return we should be giving everything we can. After all, we can’t take anything with us when we die.
If we could start getting the idea of “deserving” everything out of our minds and start putting others needs before our own wants, I’m sure the world would be a much happier place. Let’s start the new year with a resolution to think less of ourselves and think more of others. Even when it’s an inconvenience, even when you’d rather do something else, and even when it’s something that you don’t necessarily WANT to do. If it helps someone else and you are physically able to do it, start taking the time to do random acts of kindness. Or would you rather start getting what you actually do deserve?…
Check this list out for some ideas of random acts of kindness you can try in the new year!